LOVE Talk
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Release Year:
2018
Story:
Another provocative work by the Taipei Film Festival award-winning director, Shen Ko-shang. He spent the total of seven years documenting the most personal and intimate conversation of eight couples. Fairy tales often stops with the phrase, “and they lived happily after.” However, the end of the fairy tale marks not the end, but the beginning in actuality. The film challenges the couples with the underlying questions that exist but rarely discussed between husband and wife: Why do you decide to marry? When the passion fades, what is it that sustains the relationship? How do they deal with the problems with their in-laws? What changes are they faced with once children are involved? How do they put up with each other? The couple are from various professions and social class. Through the most genuine dialogs, the films guides the audience to rethink and reflect on the meaning of happiness and marriage.
Another provocative work by the Taipei Film Festival award-winning director, Shen Ko-shang. He spent the total of seven years documenting the most personal and intimate conversation of eight couples. Fairy tales often stops with the phrase, “and they lived happily after.” However, the end of the fairy tale marks not the end, but the beginning in actuality. The film challenges the couples with the underlying questions that exist but rarely discussed between husband and wife: Why do you decide to marry? When the passion fades, what is it that sustains the relationship? How do they deal with the problems with their in-laws? What changes are they faced with once children are involved? How do they put up with each other? The couple are from various professions and social class. Through the most genuine dialogs, the films guides the audience to rethink and reflect on the meaning of happiness and marriage.
Casts & Crews:
Shen Keshang
Directors
Runtime:
86
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Reference:
https://movie.douban.com/review/9558029/
https://movie.douban.com/review/9558029/
Director‘s Statement:
At the beginning of the first day of the lunar new year, I wanted to make this film because I took a wedding photo when I was married. I think the wedding photo is a very strange picture. Each couple has to spend a lot of money to dress themselves up as if they were not ordinary, and then put on a photo that seems to be very sweet and happy.
But in fact, after the beautiful moment, this photo has no other function except the commemorative value, but everyone is willing to spend the money to take this wedding photo. At that time, I felt a little curious about this phenomenon, so at the beginning, I photographed many couples who were not married but had plans to do so. Until they began to prepare for the wedding, they also included the process and story of taking wedding photos.
I found that many conservative couples actually choose the more naked lens when taking wedding photos. The more simple couples think about the old-fashioned romance. I've found a lot of interesting processes like this.
Why did it take seven years? Because what this film finally presents has nothing to do with it. At the end of the shooting, I think why should I evaluate the wedding photos? It's something you love and I want. Everyone is willing to create romance and illusion. I don't have any need to evaluate their needs or explain the industry. At that time, it was probably the first time that I put out the whole film. I had a strong feeling that I lost my curiosity. At that time, I could not help asking myself, what is my curiosity now?
I've been filming for 3 or 4 years, and I happen to have children myself, and my life has become a state of affairs around many affairs every day. Before marriage, the sofa used for the heart to heart talk every night has gradually turned into a silent, pale, mobile phone playing, children's, parents' and car loans.
I feel a little bit, can't say fear, but there will be a kind of confusion. Is marriage the end of love? Are we wrong about the definition of marriage? What possibilities can marriage face?
So I want to see how other people spend their married lives. I was really curious, so I announced on the Internet that I wanted to find some couples to chat with. Finally, I chose these eight groups and visited them from time to time. It's like throwing my own puzzles and problems on how to face marriage to them and let them talk to each other. From their conversations, they explore their own problems. So many couples, like me, don't talk to each other very much. But when the camera and I showed up, they tried to talk to each other. There were some internal things that they didn't usually talk about, and then they talked about it in front of the camera.
We all probably realize that it's important to talk, but day after day, we are bound by the flow that seems to be routines. We forget that love is not equal to passion, and then passion is not the only way to maintain marriage.
Marriage needs a lot of new concepts, whether the concept of boys or girls, to redefine the relationship between each other. Because we have to redefine the relationship between each other to face the so-called problems of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, children, time allocation, power relations, and economic strength. To a certain extent, we must recognize the other half again. At this stage, we can get along with each other in this role. In the next stage, we can get along with each other in a different and new role. Only in this way can marriage complete the romantic life of saying that we will be together for the rest of our lives.
It's a very abstract statement for me to spend my whole life together. It's unnatural that people can't think of or promise things in their 20s or 60s or 70s. I think the real natural question should be how I face my partner. How I adjust in my relationship with this partner. Because the purpose is to make each other understand each other better, let each other know each other better, and each other is more willing to help each other. That is a very important learning process of marriage for two individuals. For me, this thing is the key to dialogue.
But in fact, after the beautiful moment, this photo has no other function except the commemorative value, but everyone is willing to spend the money to take this wedding photo. At that time, I felt a little curious about this phenomenon, so at the beginning, I photographed many couples who were not married but had plans to do so. Until they began to prepare for the wedding, they also included the process and story of taking wedding photos.
I found that many conservative couples actually choose the more naked lens when taking wedding photos. The more simple couples think about the old-fashioned romance. I've found a lot of interesting processes like this.
Why did it take seven years? Because what this film finally presents has nothing to do with it. At the end of the shooting, I think why should I evaluate the wedding photos? It's something you love and I want. Everyone is willing to create romance and illusion. I don't have any need to evaluate their needs or explain the industry. At that time, it was probably the first time that I put out the whole film. I had a strong feeling that I lost my curiosity. At that time, I could not help asking myself, what is my curiosity now?
I've been filming for 3 or 4 years, and I happen to have children myself, and my life has become a state of affairs around many affairs every day. Before marriage, the sofa used for the heart to heart talk every night has gradually turned into a silent, pale, mobile phone playing, children's, parents' and car loans.
I feel a little bit, can't say fear, but there will be a kind of confusion. Is marriage the end of love? Are we wrong about the definition of marriage? What possibilities can marriage face?
So I want to see how other people spend their married lives. I was really curious, so I announced on the Internet that I wanted to find some couples to chat with. Finally, I chose these eight groups and visited them from time to time. It's like throwing my own puzzles and problems on how to face marriage to them and let them talk to each other. From their conversations, they explore their own problems. So many couples, like me, don't talk to each other very much. But when the camera and I showed up, they tried to talk to each other. There were some internal things that they didn't usually talk about, and then they talked about it in front of the camera.
We all probably realize that it's important to talk, but day after day, we are bound by the flow that seems to be routines. We forget that love is not equal to passion, and then passion is not the only way to maintain marriage.
Marriage needs a lot of new concepts, whether the concept of boys or girls, to redefine the relationship between each other. Because we have to redefine the relationship between each other to face the so-called problems of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, children, time allocation, power relations, and economic strength. To a certain extent, we must recognize the other half again. At this stage, we can get along with each other in this role. In the next stage, we can get along with each other in a different and new role. Only in this way can marriage complete the romantic life of saying that we will be together for the rest of our lives.
It's a very abstract statement for me to spend my whole life together. It's unnatural that people can't think of or promise things in their 20s or 60s or 70s. I think the real natural question should be how I face my partner. How I adjust in my relationship with this partner. Because the purpose is to make each other understand each other better, let each other know each other better, and each other is more willing to help each other. That is a very important learning process of marriage for two individuals. For me, this thing is the key to dialogue.
Casts & Crews
Shen Keshang
Director
